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[continued from the Benefit #2]

I ask myself:

Is there a clear pattern in how I react in similar situations? Do I always feel like I am being attacked/criticized unjustly? During an argument, does my ego always need to prove myself right and the other person wrong?

EGOBy observing how the situation unfolded through each person’s perspective, I am able to better assess the intentions and motivation behind everyone’s actions. Through this exercise, I may come to learn that either I was too quick to react/judge, or that the other person did have some validity in their reaction. What was once 100% their fault now drops to a significantly lower percentage. My goal is to find ways to shake up my initial emotionally charged beliefs about the situation in order to come to the realization that the incident is not worth holding a grudge for. Only then I am able to really start letting go and restoring my peace.

Acknowledging where I was potentially weak or wrong allows me to deflate my ego, focus on how I can better respond to a similar situation in the future, and start preparing myself to grow into the person I want to be.

Benefit #3:

hot-air-balloon-1I choose to view life as a harmonious, magical, and joyful experience. Therefore, I love spending time recounting the best moments of my day in order to reinforce this belief within myself. As I reflect, I begin to feel great appreciation for the people and events that helped keep me in an uplifted emotional state throughout the day. Such events can be as simple as a stranger making eye-contact and smiling at me when I walked by, having a car back out of a spot just as I am entering the parking lot, or randomly running into an acquaintance from years back. Maintaining a constant flow of gratitude and appreciation is the best way to grow to fully love yourself, love others, keep life exciting, and condition your natural emotional default to be one of unshakeable optimism and happiness.

Benefit #4:

Everyone has good and bad days. How we choose to interpret our emotional fluctuations decides whether we believe we are in control of our happiness or if our happiness is at the mercy of positive or negative external factors. By remaining positive and taking responsibility of our emotional states, we can rebound more quickly from a negative emotion by:

  1. Acknowledging when we “feel off” as quickly as we can.
  2. Making the decision that we want to feel better and believing that we can by our own will.
  3. Stop focusing on what is triggering the negative emotion (quiet the self-defeating voice in your head) and start focusing on things that will result in slightly better feeling emotions.

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As we get older, time seems to slip away too quickly. By reviewing each day in this manner, I aim to define the uniqueness of each day to prevent them from all blending together.

“Ending the Day

“The day is ending,

Our life is one day shorter.

Let us look carefully

At what we have done.

Let us practice diligently,

Putting our whole heart into the path of meditation.

Let us live deeply each moment in freedom,

So time does not slip away meaninglessly.”

9390dc59bcfa0a7e9d9a1d.L._V210231184_SX200_ Thich Nhat Hanh

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